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thefrogman:

I believe that there are a small group of women who hate men just for being men. I believe that the textbook definition of the word misandry fits that description. I believe there are bad things that happen to men. I believe those issues should be addressed. I do not believe that a fringe group of women who hate men can be blamed for those issues. 

Misandry was a dead word until recently. A group of men who feared the progress of feminism revived the word and used it to undercut the movement. They like having the power being a man provides and they don’t want to lose that. So they created a movement, found a bunch of legitimate issues that affect men, and tried to blame women for those issues. They called this misandry. It’s like conservatives using buzzwords like “death panels” to make people fear health care. They let people assume it meant Obama wanted to kill your grandma. They let their cute little phrase infect the minds of good people and convince them of falsehoods. 

People are telling me that men cannot report rape without getting laughed at. They say this is misandry. It is the fault of women who hate men. But that just doesn’t make any sense to me. When I seek a logical explanation, it seems more likely that this is because men are supposed to be strong and women are supposed to be weak. And rape has been viewed as something that happens mostly to women. So if it does happen to a man, they must be weak. How did this idea of men=strong and women=weak start? I’m pretty sure it wasn’t because of misandry. It is an ancient patriarchy collapsing in on itself. 

Feminism is about fighting inequality. It’s about erasing the strong/weak perception ingrained into our society. Misandry, as the term is often used today, is about trying to blame women for anything bad that happens to men.

If you want to fight to fix issues that affect men, go for it. But I would really consider distancing yourself from this term. It is used to evangelize folks into a movement that is very problematic. A group that can’t handle scrutiny of their comic books and video games, so they send death and rape threats. A group that calls women sluts and think they ask for rape if they show too much cleavage. Those are the people who coined this term, and you should want nothing to do with them or their language.

I love how thefrogman is able to take such a complicated issue, and explain it in such an easy to understand manner. If you wish to better understand sexism (or racism, or any other prejudiced -ism), then please look up institutional sexism.

thefrogman:

People are telling me I am wrong and that misandry exists. Spell check agrees with me though. Spell check has my back.  

George R.R. Martin to Release Another Book That's Not the Next Installment of 'A Song of Ice and Fire' | Pajiba

wilwheaton:

popculturebrain:

Martin will release ‘The Wit and Wisdom of Tyrion Lannister,’ a collection of “clever and naughty quips” from the beloved character, this Christmas, mostly because he hates his fans.

George loves his fans. I know this because I’ve spoken with him at length about that very subject. Also, as Neil Gaiman put it so eloquently, George R.R. Martin is not your bitch.

I get that it’s amusing to fire off some snarky joke about how George hates his fans, but wouldn’t it be more interesting to really look at how this book came together? Do you actually think George sat down, stopped what he was doing, and wrote a book of brand new Tyrion Lannister quotes? Oh, wait, that’s not what he did, and I know this because I read the announcement from Harper Collins: “The hardback title will gather together “clever and naughty quips” from the popular character from A Song of Ice and Fire series.”

Or can we apply Occam’s Razor for a moment and consider:

1) Game of Thrones is wildly popular at the moment,

2) Tyrion Lannister is one of the most popular characters on the show,

3) A bunch of business people at Harper Collins saw an opportunity to have an editor cull existing material, add an introduction or a few other words from George throughout, and laugh all the way to the bank.

I don’t know what George is writing at the moment, and while I hope that it’s more ASoIaF, I also hope he’s enjoying the process, because he’s earned it. He owes us nothing, and the only thing we should ever say to George is Thank You.

Thank you, George.

thefrogman:

Self esteem penguin by Jacqueline C. [tumblr | twitter]

Always a good reminder :)

Dear Men,

As a feminist and generally reasonable human being, I am offended for you. Not only does this not make sense, but it also implies that you have no control over your own actions, that every man is a rapist, just not all have raped. This is bloody ridiculous and makes me unhappy.

Sincerely,
Atomaren

“But sir! Why did you rape her?”
“Weak laws and policies, my dear gentleman. Weak laws and policies”

themyskira:

Hannah Gadsby on rape culture (x)

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rstevens:

I cannot decide if this the best t-shirt idea ever or the worst t-shirt idea ever. Sketch, obviously.

This is phenomenal.